Ask any bride or anyone who has ever had to plan out a wedding. It’s probably one of the most stressful things you can ever go through in your life. When you plan out a wedding, you’re not just planning out some event, but you’re planning out someone’s big day. Someone’s going to want to remember this day for the rest of their life and for the good, not the bad.
So, when the time is there and you’re down to the wire, do you have everything ready, has everything been planned out well in advance and is anything going to go wrong? Relax, because it wouldn’t be a wedding if at least one thing didn’t go wrong. The photographer showed up drunk, the husband has cold feet, one of the bride’s maids is crying in the corner about how she’s going to be forever alone, etc.
As someone who has attended many weddings, I can assure you that while you see happy smiles and faces on the outside during the actual officiation, there’s an organizational nightmare and chaotic mess going on backstage, kind of like a cheap Hollywood romantic comedy movie. So how do you deal with and avoid all this stress?
First, just breathe. Take deep breathes and remember that this is the big day. There isn’t anything that’s going to ruin this big day for you and you’re not going to let anything get to you. Take that to heart and remember that this is YOUR big day, no one else’s. Also, remember that you have a coordinator and a wedding planner to help you out should anything go wrong. Involve them in the process and let them handle the stressful work.
There’s no reason to do the work you’re paying someone else to do, regardless of how much it’s stressing you out. Try doing some exercise, or whatever exercise you can manage to do in the dress you’re in. Try some light yoga or stretching while you wait. Try to clear your mind of all the anxiety and all the deep troubling thoughts you have in your head. The only tunnel vision you should have is getting to that alter and getting down that aisle with hundreds of smiling faces upon you.
What can you do before the wedding? Planning out a wedding can be just as stressful because everything has to be 100% perfect and right the first time or it will not work. Again, you have a wedding planner. You also have the person you’re getting married to. We understand it’s your big day, but get them involved. Don’t leave them out of the conversation just because you don’t think they’ll understand.
Get your friends involved and let them help you. Don’t try to tackle all of the important and hard parts of the wedding alone. That’s just asking for some self-induced stress. Remember, it’s your big day and nothing’s going to ruin that for you. Even crazy Uncle Bill who showed up drunk and objects to the kiss.